Tragadey

There has been a tragedy in my family this week. My cousin boyfriend of many years died in a motorcycle accident with which he was racing @ 180mph in Detroit. Unfortunately he did not survive and my cousin witnessed the whole contras trophy. They were very much in love and Will was a huge part of our family's life. Sitting in bed @ 11 pm and hearing about the news my heart ached... It ached not only for the parents and extended family that will have to bear his loss but my tears were for my cousin. Are we really that close? Honestly no, but to know that her heart was breaking was enough. And I mourn for my aunt who I am very close to .. I pondered what could she possibly say to her daughter @ this time? What words could truly bring her comfort? We as a family are interceding for their peace and that the Lord will create good as His word declares out of something so horrible. Than I thought about my son. I just about had a nervous breakdown when he stubbed his toe!!! But those cuts and bruises can be mended by a kiss from mom and and a band aid. But how to help mend a broken heart. How does a mother nurture back a wounded soul? Isn't that our job? I tell him frequently " mommy will make it all better".. and I don't think you stop feeling that way even when they are grown. I'm sure he will have a heart ache @ times.. a death, a breakup, a loss friendship. But how could I assist in easing his pain if I've never felt that way myself. I guess there is a thing about having " experience".. and the ability to confidently say " This too shall pass".. eventually the hurt will dull and the memories will fade and you'll be left with a choice. Am I going to choose to dwell on that which I can not change or take back. Or will I press forward choosing my thoughts and discarding those that bring me sorrow. It sounds so superficial. But having to do that myself I can tell my son It is possible. Life really does move along. I wonder what advice in time my aunt will tell my cousin. As for today I think lots of hugs, kisses and " I can't make it better, but this too shall pass".. that will have to be enough.